The mainstream version of the Greek word Koumbara means maid of honor. Traditionally the Koumbara would help the bride decorate her crown and place a ribbon in it. There would be a part during the ceremony where the Koumbara would place the crown upon the bride’s head to “crown them with honor and glory.” Once the bride and groom have children it also important that the Koumbara be there on the day the children are baptized then takes on the roll of godparent.
Tasha and I are not Greek but this titled makes sense for me in her wedding. I am the godmother. Plus I was going to be in the wedding party so why the hell not. We like traditions and shit. Although, Natasha & Shane’s wedding is not going to be very traditional. They don’t need it, they don’t even technically need a marriage license anyways. This is one of those couples that is going to be together forever no questions asked. Since this won’t be a traditional wedding and well I’m not a stand up in front of people to give a speech I figured I could write it out here. I wrote a story on them before but this one’s from my perspective.
The first time Natasha introduced me to Shane was one of my favorite “classic Shane” stories. Natasha had just picked me up from my house to hang out. When I got in her car she said “don’t be mad, but we have to go get Shane.” I tell ya if I had a nickel. So we are driving to Reston when Natasha makes a joke “watch he’s going to be like ‘hey babe I met this homeless guy .. ” We both laughed at how ridiculous that sounded. Well that’s what I thought at least. We got to Reston Town Center and parked near the fountains. Of course Shane was nowhere to be found with a dead cell phone. He finally shows up, stating he needs to find a way to fit his bike into her tiny car. Then proceeds to tell us how he met this homeless man that needed a ride. Natasha and I just stared at each other. It’s like she had know this was the situation already. They were just connected like that.
No we didn’t take home a homeless man but that story was the start of me considering Shane as family. See Shane was always around through high school and college he was like the third wheel. As the months turned into years I always worried I would end being the third wheel but that never happened. See somewhere down the line we all became best friends. The only way I can explain why is because they are extensions of each other. They work together as one being. How that is even possible can only be defined as soulmates.
Natasha has been my best friend since I was in sixth grade. The Sex and the City quote about how our soulmates might be our girlfriends and guys are just people we have fun with – that’s how it is for me. But I didn’t realize how much I need both of these souls in my life until I got pregnant. See just a month before they had found out they were pregnant. To some this may have seemed crazy but to me this was perfect. Their love was pouring into a new entity. An entity that they wanted me to be the godparent of. I honestly can say had only I gotten pregnant at the time nothing would have changed about the part I am going to tell you.
Since Jax was an infant Shane has been there for him. Natasha has been there for me for what feels like my whole life so I knew she would always be there for Jax. It’s not that I am surprised by any means of the nature of which Shane is there for Jaxson it’s how much I realized he was part of my family too. He has been feeding, changing, babysitting, and mentoring Jaxson whenever they are together. Never once hesitating. Jaxson has been obsessed with “Sheen” since he’s been able to vocalize it. He even calls him dada sometimes.. I don’t know who the heck is going to break that news to him but it sure as hell won’t be me.
Shane has taken Jaxson under his wing as if he was his own. I really don’t even know how to begin to explain what this means to me. Shane knew Jaxson would need a manly figure to look up to and without hesitation or request he took on that responsibility. Their union has left footprints on all the hearts of the lives they have encountered not just their owns. Natasha uses this quote to describe their relationship & I totally get it. If something were to happen to either of them I know the other would live on through the other.
He’s more myself than I am. Whatever our souls made of, his and mine are the same. If all else perished, and he remained, I should still continue to be; and if all else remained, and he were annihilated, the universe would turn to a mighty stranger.
Congratulation Hale’s its about damn time.